Through being born into a family, we inherit not only our biological genes but also our belief systems and behavior patterns. Our family is an energy field within which we are held, each in our unique position, from the time we were born. This family energy field limits or enhances our capacity for happiness, freedom of choice, success in accomplishing our goals, ability to maintain enjoyable relationships, health, and well-being. We may feel that we have been held in a pattern of problems for eternity, but Family Constellation offers us a chance to understand these patterns at the deepest level. They enable us to bring our pattern to resolution and thus find peace and happiness.
The character of our Family energy field is formed by our family’s history, including its religion and beliefs, even the country’s characteristics we were born into. Our Family system is shaped by power events such as the relationship history of the parents and grandparents, early death of children, miscarriages, abortions, adoptions, suicides, mental illness, incest, betrayal, cheating, trust, secrets, abuse, wars, having to leave one’s country, changing one’s religion, ancestors who were victims or perpetrators. The essence of working with Family constellation is ACKNOWLEDGING WHAT IS. We can heal our family system. We are empowered through understanding the mechanisms to control our behavior so as not to cause self-distractions and suffering to the following generation.What kind of unwanted Patterns do we work with?
Family Constellation can be used for a wide variety of problems, including physical, mental, social, or spiritual issues.
We are seeing clients coming with:
- Depression – low mood
- Anxiety
- Bad habits
- Failure at work – no promotion, not having your dream job
- Phobias
- Family dysfunction – especially with parents
- Physical symptoms
- Trauma – from childhood
- Grief
- Bad habits
- Obsessive thoughts – negative and false beliefs
- Financial problems
- Negative relationship patterns – friends, love, co-worker, boss
History of Family Constellation
Today, when we talk about family system therapy, we think about Bert Hellinger and his method of Family Constellation. At twenty years old, he began to train as a priest, and in his next sixteen years, he worked as a missionary among the Zulus in South Africa.
His experience was very and varied throughout the Second World War in Africa where he was exposed to rituals and shamanism. After twenty-five years, he left his religious order and returned to Germany. Hellinger studied many approaches to therapy such as Breath and Body-based Therapy, Gestalt – Transactional Analysis, Family System Therapy, Family Constellation, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Provocative Therapy and Holding Therapy. Hellinger is led by his spirit of inquiry. He calls his method phenomenological. Through testing and working with many individuals, he has discovered many rules that govern our lives and destinies.